No Secrets, Just Strength: Choosing Unity Daily

Unity is one of God's most potent and beautiful blessings to a married couple. It is more than just getting along—it is a spiritual alignment, an emotional oneness, and a physical intimacy reflecting God's very nature. Unity in marriage does not happen naturally or automatically; it must be cultivated, pursued, and protected.

Psalm 133:1 says, "How good and pleasant it is when God's people live together in unity!" 

This truth extends to marriage: unity is good—it brings joy, peace, and strength. And it is pleasant—it creates an atmosphere of love, understanding, and safety.

In Ephesians 4:3, encourages us to "make every effort to keep the unity of the Spirit through the bond of peace. " Make every effort" implies intentionality and persistence. Unity isn't always easy, but it is always worth fighting for. It requires humility, grace, and, above all, mutual submission to God and to one another (Ephesians 5:21).

Marriage was never meant to be a battle between two individuals, but a bond of two people becoming one. When a couple walks in unity, they walk in power.

This is why Genesis 2:24 describes a man leaving his mother and father and being united to his wife, becoming "one flesh." It is a deep and sacred connection.

Ecclesiastes 4:12 declares, "Though one may be overpowered by another, two can withstand him. And a threefold cord is not quickly broken".

 The third strand is God Himself. The third cord is God. With God is at the center, Unity becomes durable, enduring, and unbreakable.

But unity doesn't just happen. It must be guarded against the many forces that seek to divide.

One of the most subtle and damaging barriers to unity in marriage is secrecy. When a spouse hides thoughts, struggles, desires, or decisions from the other, it creates an emotional and spiritual distance. Secrets—even small ones—build walls. Transparency, on the other hand, builds trust. Unity thrives in the light. Jesus said in Luke 8:17, "For there is nothing hidden that will not be disclosed, and nothing concealed that will not be known or brought out into the open." In a marriage, secrecy robs couples of the "life in common" that 1 Corinthians 1:10 (MSG) encourages: "You must get along with each other. You must learn to be considerate of one another, cultivating a life in common."